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Kindness and Consideration

One of my biggest issues with “people these days” is that so many think they are beyond rules. Beyond obeying signs in traffic that say “Merge left one mile” and instead wait until they can’t go further and try to cut in front of someone who got over when they were supposed to. People who clearly see everyone doing one thing and think they are the special snowflake that doesn’t have to follow the rules.

Leaving the Levitt Shell Sunday, my son said he needed to use the bathroom. My sister-in-law said her son did, too, but she hoped the line wasn’t long. We walk back to the bathrooms (not porta potties – nice permanent bathrooms, 2 for women on one side of a small building and 2 for men on the other side) and there is only one woman waiting in line.

“Oh that’s not bad,” my sister-in-law said, and we get in line behind the one woman with our two children, and another friend behind us.

The one woman goes into the bathroom. A woman gets in line behind us. Another woman walks up to the grassy space between the two bathroom doors. Immediately I know she’s cutting in line because, let’s be honest – I always think the worst of people. By now there are two girls and their boyfriends in line behind the woman who came up behind our small group.

The other bathroom doors opens and the woman standing in the grassy spot walks towards it as I loudly tell my son “Go on in that… Oh, ok nevermind, we will keep waiting IN LINE.”

The woman gave me the stink eye, starting closing the door, and then opened it back up. “I’ve been waiting to go FOREVER,” she says snidely.

“When we walked up there was ONE WOMAN IN LINE and she just went in that one,” I pointed.

“You’re REALLY going to start this in front of your kid?” she scoffed.

I was baffled. “Start this”? Standing up for ourselves? Was she trying to mom-shame me? Excuse me, but – Bitch, please. “YES, I am,” I said, “Because he knows it’s right to wait for your turn and I don’t want people walking all over him his whole life.”

My five-year-old nephew even loudly said “Yeah, that’s skipping!”

She didn’t comment but I hope she heard it all before going into that bathroom.

I seriously had at LEAST 2 grown witnesses and 2 children witnesses – I’m not sure what the woman who got into line behind us saw. But I was just… flabbergasted. She clearly WAS NOT waiting in line when we got in line. If she had been “waiting to go FOREVER” she must have been holding it during the concert and that’s her own fault. But she was NOT in line, or even anywhere near the bathrooms when my small group approached.

There is also clearly a place for a line. We went to a show Friday night to and used the bathrooms twice and there is just a natural place for the line to form next to the railing.

But besides all that… You are really going to skip ahead of two children (WHO WERE WAITING IN LINE) who need to pee? Maybe she thought they would be messy and us parents wouldn’t clean up after them, but that’s a stretch. She was clearly only thinking of herself. I really try to not judge people on looks but she was young, blond, decked out in athletic gear, and clearly was used to getting her way, uncontested. That’s why as soon as she walked up, I was like “Yup, I know what’s happening here.”

I don’t like when people cut in front of me in traffic when signs gave you a mile to merge. And I don’t like you skipping in line in front of my son and nephew who need to pee just because you’re entitled and are used to getting your way. I speak up about stuff like that, and YES I do it in front of my kid because I don’t want HIM to be that jerk that cuts in front of people. I want him to follow the rules BUT ALSO call out those who don’t. Because they are the ones messing up the flow.

I know everyone has their own problems, but… if you’re out in public, please just follow the rules and be a decent person so everyone else can have a decent day. In this case, if she came running up and whispered that she was on her period or even “I drank 12 beers and really need to pee!” I would have ushered her in front of us with no qualms. But walking up and being ENTITLED to it is what pisses me off, and then trying to MOM-SHAME me about “starting this” in front of my kid makes my blood boil.

The only thing that gives me peace of mind about this is that she clearly doesn’t have any kids… yet. I can only hope that once she does, she’ll have learned a lesson or two and will raise them to be decent human beings, instead of being raised to be a replica of her. We don’t need anymore people like that. Be kind, show compassion, follow the rules… be decent.

 

home life, hygiene

Brusha Brusha Brusha: Trying Tom’s of Maine Toothpaste

It seems like I’ve been focused on toothpaste lately, so that’s where I’ll start.

We ran out of toothpaste a week or two ago. I mentioned we were using up my old travel tubes – old, but still good. They did the trick.

But we were almost out of those, too, so while I was at the store I picked up a tube of Tom’s of Maine Simply White. I know Tom’s is natural, but I’ve never used any of these products. Since we just needed a tube to hold us over until our subscription box* arrived, I wanted to give it a shot.

I brought it home and labeled it with the date, because I want to start taking note of how long things last us. This is our first year as a family of four, and my son is getting older and using regular products instead of baby items, so I have no clue how long dish soap, toothpaste, toilet paper, and others will last.

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I was excited to try Tom’s, and brushed my teeth pretty soon after I got home and got that bad boy labeled. I squeezed it onto my toothbrush and… yuck! I thought it was so gross – and I say this as someone who used to brush with baking soda only! The faint hint of mint really ruined it for me.

I’ve been using it for six days now, and it’s really grown on me. I guess since I’ve previously used just baking soda, I adapted easily. I feel like it gets my teeth much cleaner, also. Especially in the morning – I wake up with no gunky feeling on my teeth!

After considering the overall taste and benefits of my short experience with Tom’s, my mind went to packaging. I recycled the box after opening it, but the tube, of course… The tube! I always throw away toothpaste tubes; never really thought about it, since there is always stubborn toothpaste left inside.

I looked it up and found that Tom’s actually does recycle their tubes – you can sign up for free, ship your natural product containers to them, and have them recycled. They are recycled through Terracycle, and you earn points for what you ship, which can then be donated to charity (or redeemed for other things, but let’s keep the cycle of good going here). This is definitely something I’m going to look into, because it greatly affects what products I buy from now on.

I really hope I can get my whole family on board with this toothpaste. My husband has used it before and disliked it, but maybe he can adapt like I did. My 3.5 year old has used it twice, but said it was “too spicy”. He’s said that about kid’s toothpaste before, so I thought this lighter mint flavor would help, but maybe not. I’m going to keep trying it to see if he gets used to it, because he is very adaptable. I would like the whole family to be using the same product.

That being said, our subscription box includes a six pack of Crest toothpaste, which I imagine will taste very chemical-y to me after my Tom’s experience. The older boys (my husband and 8 year old stepson) are not as into natural living as I am, so I have a feeling they will want to stick with mainstream toothpastes.

I’ll report back with any updates to our toothpaste experiences. Next up: the perfect toothbrush!

 

* I’ll share our subscription box information and my thoughts on that whole deal, soon.