donating, shopping


I was first introduced to the concept of “regifting” on an episode of Seinfeld, probably when I was in middle school. It was presented as a majorly negative concept:

Elaine:  I think this is the same one I gave him. He recycled this gift. He’s a regifter!

Even though it was mentioned that maybe the same gift was purchased because it was so good, it was set in my mind that regifting wasn’t the thing to do. And in that instance, the recipient wasn’t thrilled with the gift when he got it, so it was more of an impolite thing overall than just regifting the gift.

But as I changed my lifestyle and mindset, I started to think… regifting isn’t so bad, is it? If you get a gift you don’t like, why not pass it along? Be polite about it, though, because after all, it’s the thought that counts! But there is a compulsion to keep the gift, especially if it’s something to hang up or display, so the person who gave it to you can see it when they come over.

This concept comes up in a Gilmore Girls episode where Emily is trying to find all the gifts her mother-in-law gave her, so she can display them as if she loves having them in her home. Most of them are in the basement, and a hat rack was given regifted to Lorelai.


I have never gone to a friend’s house expecting to see my gifts prominently displayed. That being said, it does make me feel warm and fuzzy when I see my gifts or cards around. But that’s a bonus feeling.

If I get a gift I can’t use or don’t want, I will graciously accept it. But I don’t see anything wrong with passing that gift on to someone it is better suited for. What’s the difference between regifting and donating? Not much, except donations are more broad, and you don’t know who will get the item. It’s a fine way to get rid of things, but if you know a friend who would love a copy of the book you already own, why not pass it on?

I have similar feelings about “new” gifts – I love getting a cool purse from a thrift store, or used books or 45s from a library book sale. It means a friend was shopping and saw something that they thought I’d like, so they got it for me. It doesn’t have to be brand new and expensive with the tags still on.

How do you feel about regifting – both doing it and getting “regifts”?

home life, natural living, school, working

Zero Waste

I mentioned the Zero Waste Home on my Inspiration link up, but only wrote a blip about the site. When I discovered it back in 2010, it really affected my thinking and my lifestyle. I was really into blogs back then, following friends and personal blogs and lifestyle blogs, and I even followed some fashion bloggers, believe it or not! These were more alternative bloggers who bought from thrift stores or had capsule wardrobes or did 30 day challenges… Attainable fashion, basically. Even those sold out, though some have come back pretty level-headed. But I digress.

The Zero Waste Home made me conscious of what I used and how I disposed of it. Since then, I have noticed how much trash I bring home from the grocery store in terms of packaging. And how much paper schools waste with busy work or “art” just to have something to show, to keep the kids busy, or to hit numbers and create “meaningful” data. It’s all pretty disgusting, but it’s hard to keep it away.

I wrote about Valentine’s cards and how I thought they were wasteful, but what can you do? Everything about consumerism and waste is so mainstream, so ingrained in everything, that it’s hard to break free. I sometimes still feel societal pressure about things as an adult, so I certainly don’t want my son to feel uncomfortable or mocked because his mom hates recycling the art papers that are sent home with him, or anything along those lines.

Going Zero Waste within the home is easy enough – we are keeping track of our trash vs our recycling and seeing how much we get rid of each week. We are trying to cut down on what we bring in in the first place. And I think it’s important to speak up and tell others we don’t want what they are offering us, like a free plastic toothbrush at the dentist when we buy our own compostable toothbrushes. But in a setting like school, or the workplace, things get a bit harder.

Do you have this problem with your workplace or at your kids’ school? How do you work around it? Are you vocal and just hope your kids go with it? Do you consider working at home and/or homeschooling your kids as an alternative?

Let’s get deep on the last letter of the alphabet, hm?

home life, reading

Keepin’ On

Driving Miss Norma is a memoir about a couple who decided to give up a conventional life for a chance to live as nomads. Tim and Ramie lived in an RV and spent months in different locations, making friends, learning to live in diverse environments, and creating the life they wanted to live. As soon as I read about their background, I was hooked. I traveled out of a backpack for 6 months, and dreamed of living in one place for several months before moving on to another place, and so on and so on. “Real” life caught up with me, but I am still brainstorming how I can make a life like this work for me…eventually.

Anyway, Tim and Ramie visit Tim’s parents, Leo and Norma, for their usual visit and see that both parents have deteriorated. Tim and Ramie change their plans to stay awhile and help take care of Leo and Norma. When Leo passes away, Norma knows she can’t stay in that big old house by herself. She is diagnosed with cancer but refuses chemotherapy because it will compromise her quality of life. Tim and Ramie don’t want to give up their lifestyle, but don’t want to put Norma in a nursing home. When they ask her if she would like to travel with them… she says yes.

Tim is astonished because in his memory, his mother is timid and doesn’t take chances. But she has always wanted to travel and see certain places, so Tim and Ramie make an itinerary based on what Norma wants to see. They upgrade their RV so there is room for three adults and a dog, and room for a wheelchair to move. They change their lives without changing their lifestyle, and Norma comes along. Throughout the trip, they see her grow and change and fully live her life.

This book was beautiful. The writing style was very blog-like (because they were also keeping a blog, but still) but the stories told make it worth it. I love the idea of picking up and doing everything you’ve wanted to do, even if society is trying to push you to do chemo/what is expected of you. Keep on keepin’ on! The stories and photos of all the travel spots are amazing, as well as the kindness so many strangers showed. Not only should you read the book, but also keep up with them on Facebook.